I like the idea, and I also like the results of the theory. For instance I love the idea of DOING something about your life. Action based upon where you are now instead of wondering, worrying, feeling bad, and regretting the past which often leads to lack of change and lack of moving forward and creating a better future. In fact, I think often doing the looking back and worrying is the worst thing becasue it leads people to say this is who I am now and I cannot be different the future cannot be any better for me because of the past. That can be dangerous and a waste of a lifetime. It is a fact though that this is a “natural” reaction to life I think. Maybe it’s because our natural selves default to being hopeless or that evil wants us to be hopeless because that spurs us to give up on the hope of something greater. So to be naturally looking forward it a gift and talent of some — A real effort for the rest of us.

However. HOw does this translate for future decisions? I mean I can look to the future with optimism, but what does this really mean for my future. “I am what I am because of my past experiences, now go forward with who I want to be.”, but that also means “I will be what I will be based upon now and the immediate future”. That still leaves a lot to be decided. For a woman, having and raising a family is so different than climbing the ladder of success in business. For a Spammy, working in technology is so different than being a SM. The future is so unclear much of the time. Why don’t we know more? Why isn’t there some more obvious guidance? I guess because then we wouldn’t reap the benefits of struggling through the problems.